haircut looks like a boy
Isla got a haircut. It so short, some of her classmates thought she was a new kid: a new boy kid.
Her hair had gotten longer than any seven year old needs, unless she planning to get locked in a tower. And I had grown alarmed at the amount of time she been spending in front of the mirror admiring it, flipping it, flicking it, brushing it, braiding it, comparing its length to her friends hair.
Abby Wambach is one of the best female soccer players in the world, with a scoring record that recently bested that of former soccer hero Mia Hamm. But Abby Wambach, unlike Mia Hamm, doesn have the pre requisite long, luxurious pony tail flowing down her back to assure her spectators that, despite her amazing muscles, speed and skills, she was indeed girl. Abby Wambach has closely shorn hair that screams don give a hoot about gender stereotypes. Isla first announced she wanted a short cut, I envisioned her, my pixie headed child, crying in a hairdresser chair. So I tried to stall her.
Maybe we’ll go some afternoon. Maybe I’ll get mine cut too. Mom and daughter bobs. she said. already told you, No bobs. I want a short cut. Like Abby Wambach."
Did she know that a short hair cut can drastically change her appearance? Does she realize she be the only little girl in the entire school who isn’t sporting the ubiquitous long, straight pony tail?
So much for me celebrating, nurturing and championing my independent thinker. I was reacting like a total coward. Was I scared for her, or for me? And of what?
We had to go to two hairdressers before we found the right person for the job. When the first hairdresser Googled a particularly non glamorous picture of Abby Wambach and made a face, I knew we had to move on. Yet I wasn above her conformist tendencies. I found myself still trying to talk Isla out of it.
let’s think about this a little longer, shall we? was crushed. We walked to the car and Esther lectured me. won’t you let Isla cut her hair?
place didn’t feel right, I said, groping for an excuse. we need a better picture to show them. It was almost empty, with one woman, a birthmark covering one quarter of her face, mopping the floor.
you closed? I asked. do you need? she answered.
I wasn’t yet convinced we had found our hairdresser. But we all filed in and Isla showed her the picture Esther had drawn. There was no grimacing this time.
she said. got it. Have a seat. asked Isla if she wanted to donate her hair to Locks of Love. Then she made two pony tails an picked up her shears. She held up the two headless pony tails, like souvenirs. Isla was transformed.
And she was smiling, relaxed, happy.
The hairdresser worked fast. She told Isla she was brave. Isla simply sat and watched herself in the mirror, her serious expression breaking only occasionally into her classic, missing front teeth smile.
Isla as the Great Gatsby Daisy Buchanan. Stylist: Esther
The cut looks fabulous. My girl knows what she wants. Why does that surprise me? And what were all those conflicting feelings I was having about losing my sassy, long haired youngest daughter and replacing her with what resembled a little boy at first glance?
Why do I need for people to recognize my daughter as a girl when she could care less? All this coming from me, a once devout, short haired tomboy who reveled in being mistaken for a boy, was totally unexpected.
Isla haircut looks beautiful! I would not mind if my DD wanted her hair cut short but for dance team they require it long for the various looks/costumes. I will admit a double standard about long hair since I really hate long hair on men for the most part. There are exceptions when men keep it well groomed and pulled back. My biggest concern with boys/men and long hair is that they don take care of it and it looks stringy and unkept and not at all attractive (although I can count a few men I know that are the exception).
I come from a family of short haired women. I had a pixie cut through most of high school and have had it both long and short in the years since. I prefer it short, but I do not have time for the
wholesale hair constant upkeep. I also have a seven year old daughter who loves her long hair. I have no problem if she wanted short hair, nor does anyone in my family, other than her father who loves his long haired little girl. The issue comes that our three year old son has yet to have his first haircut. He has adorable shaggy/curly blond hair that my boyfriend and I love. My family, on the other hand, hates it. We never hear the end of won you let him have a little boy haircut I just don understand why all the women in my family are perfectly fine with short hair for girls, but a little boy with long hair is instantly taboo.
Betsy you are not going to believe this. My 9 y/o has been asking for a short haircut since she was 5. My husband pushed it off for 4 years and this year, I told him straight out, let her do it. After 2 more months of my DD and I talking to him about it he finally gave in. His concern was that kids would tease her about having hair and kids get teased enough without adding to the ammunition. But my DD told him I don care what other people say, I want it. Well, she got basically this same hair cut (except hers is a little shorter in the back and the short goes higher up) but she looks FABULOUS!!!! Even my husband, who loves long hair, said, now on, I
wholesale brazilian hair letting the kid do as she likes with her hair she obviously knows what works for her. It takes a special girl to rock this look, and Isla ROCKS IT!!!!!!! I love it on her. Kudos to you for letting Isla be Isla.
Isla cut looks really cute on her and it sounds like she has the confidence to not carey what others think about it.
I have to admit, I would be upset if my daughter wanted her hair that short, but would also be a little relieved because it would be much easier to take care of.
When my daughter was in elementary school there was a typical in her Brownie troop. She had her hair cut in a similar fashion and was teased about looking like a boy. It didn bother her at all. Fast forward a few years and this girl is now a freshman in high school. Her hair is longer now, but not super long. She is a little more than she was in elementary school, but still a fierce athlete. I think this girl will always be her own person and not be overly influenced by what other people think.
My 2 boys 10 and 6, only get their hair cut about 3 4 times per year
facebook besthairbuy so it gets longer and shaggier, how they like it and how it suits them. Unfortunately their school doesn like their hair to get longer than their collar. They occasionally ask for wayout styles like mohawks and dreadlocks I told them your school won like it so you have to wait until your an adult.
My daughter is 2, I haven had it cut yet. She had alot of hair since birth and is now well below her shoulders when wet. When dry she has gorgeous curls at the ends that bring it up to her shouders. I never had long hair as a young girl, so I would love for her to keep it long as long as she lets me look after it until she can. Cutting it short would be her decision..